I am three years older than my husband…..he is my small god – Toyin Aimakhu

Posted by: b3rrilyn in Interview Jan 10, 2015

Actress Toyin Aimakhu Johnson has had her fair share of criticisms stemming from her marriage to a younger man…In a new interview with the Nigerian Tribune, the actress who hails from Edo state opened up on her marriage and how submissive she is..
It has been rough and sweet at the same time. We amend, we push, we pray and do everything to make it work, because we don’t know anything about marriage, we only dream. It is an experience that is continuous, an institution from which you will never graduate; and we pray never to graduate from it.
Some critics didn’t believe that your marriage could even last this long…

That’s their own wahala. I don’t care. But all the same, I like the attitude. I’ve heard that before, even from people that we thought were close to us. But the truth is, a lot of people don’t know the kind of upbringing we had.
They know neither my background nor my husband’s, so they judge based on speculations. But I love it. It even serves as a push to remind us that it must last. It is obvious that some people are waiting for my marriage to crash and that alone is enough incentive for me to make it work. My home is built on the solid rock, I am not of the world.
There are also speculations that your husband is younger than you are…
My husband is three years older than I am. I don’t owe anyone that explanation though. It is no one’s business. In fact, let them say I am 20 years older than him. It is their problem.
�Your husband has been able to change a lot about you. For instance, stopping you from using a blackberry phone, among other things. Many thought you couldn’t be that submissive…
That is why he is my husband. And those that say things about me are those that don’t know me. He is my small god; I have to listen to him because I want to have a happy home. All my older siblings are happily married; everybody in my family is happily married. My eldest sibling is like 50 years old and is still happily married, so mine can’t be a different story.
My parents are still happily married; my father is 74 years old, my mother is 72, so who will I turn to with a broken home? I am submissive to him, because he is my husband. So if he is doing his responsibility, then I have to do mine too as a wife. A lot of people don’t know what a hubby and wife relationship means and that is why we have a lot of broken homes.
I am off BBM because he doesn’t like it and I am fine with it. Moreover, that is the only thing many people know, there are lot of things I had to give up because he doesn’t like it.
�Any role restriction?

Yes. I have lost a lot of roles to that. I even recently lost a chance to feature in an English movie. They ask you if you can do some things or not and I said no.
What can make you turn down a script?

I used to belong to myself, but now I belong to someone and I have to dance to that person’s tunes. As a Christian, we have the 10 commandments and the husband is the ‘small god’ in the home. The Bible says if you listen and obey God’s commandments, He would do everything for you, so that’s the way it is. I’m gone past some roles.