Infertility Affected My Nollywood Career – Dayo Amusa

Nollywood actress, Dayo Amusa has come out to share the obstacles she encountered on her journey to becoming a mother.

She recently had her say via her social media page, and fans have been reacting.

According to her, she always wanted to be a wife and a mother but she constantly found herself struggling with infertility alongside partners who ended up cheating on her and getting other women pregnant before moving on with them.

Amusa added that she tried various treatments to be fertile, but nothing worked and her job suffered because she was too depressed to work.

Her words, “I never thought I would get to this moment but GOD knew.

For as long as I can remember I knew I wanted to be a complete idea woman ( a wife and mom ).

Having had 3 miscarriages, in 2015, I was diagnosed with uterine myomatosis, and some doctors recommended removing my womb due to the complications and discomfort i experience every month during my menstrual cycle. I decided to fight and reject that option. I was on medications, injections and treatments to stop the growth of tumors until my uncle’s wife advised I come to uk for treatment.

14th of Feb. 2015, I had the surgery to remove the tumor via TCRE Laparoscopy dye ovarian drilling procedure as I was really afraid of being open… In 2016 myself and my then partner decided to try again as we were so eager to welcome our 1st child together but later discovered one of my tubes was broken and it would be almost impossible to get pregnant naturally… Men as men, my then partner was involved with another woman unknown to me which produced a baby boy. After so many ups and downs, back and forth, na so the whole thing ended (Story for another day)

Fast forward Jan 2019 Myself and my supposed husband kept trying to no avail and then we decided to try IVF but yet all efforts were negative outcome. My supposed husband was really impatient with me, He was over 40yrs old and was insisting on having a child that year. He proposed if I could allow him to get someone else pregnant while am waiting on my miracle baby and when I couldn’t live with that, he walked away and ofcourse, got someone else pregnant months later and that produced him a baby girl.

I became frustrated and very sad. I withdrew and isolated myself, I lost my purpose and loose interest in almost everything that matters to me even distance myself from my family and friends. My career suffered the most as I gradually lose focus and interest in my passion. I ran into my shell battling with depression for many years.

Even though it appeared to the world out there that everything was fine with me as I always wear a mask of happy face. But I never lost faith that sooner or later God would hear my innermost hidden prayers and fulfill my desires. What I value the most is the change that God made in my heart and mindset during my wait despite all the names calling to the level of being publicly called a BAREN.

There’s this misconception that if someone is smiling, they’re okay. If someone is talking about it or has not spoken about it, they must be okay. But the reality is… it’s often hard to be okay when you’re faced with the challenges of waiting/infertility.

Is it the constant blame, self-doubt, name calling, fear of the unknowns, waiting, pain, comparison, sadness, anger.

It’s all so heavy. It is a full-time job. It often wreaks havoc on once mental health, relationships, career, productivity and even finances.

All these time, my mum (my world) would suggest I relocate to the United States or the United Kingdom. She would advise I have a change of environment and breathe new soil as it was obvious I wasn’t living the life anymore instead life was leaving me. She once bought me the full return ticket as I’ve not been working and was financially unstable as at then. After so much persuasion, In 2021, I gave in to her advice to have a change of environment and that was when the story changed.”

WOW.