My Wife’s Assertiveness Made Me Feel Like I Was Losing My Grip On Our Marriage – Daniel Etim-Effiong

Nollywood actor, Daniel Etim-Effiong has come out to open up about the early struggles in his marriage.

He recently had his say during an interview session with his wife, Toyosi, and fans have been reacting.

According to him, he was always used to people consulting him before decisions are made as opposed to people having their say, so his wife’s assertiveness initially posed a challenge in their marriage.

Daniel added that the situation made him feel like he was losing his grip on his marriage at the time, but now he knows better.

His words, “I’m not used to people having their say; I’m used to ‘Should we do this? Should we do that?’ sitting with the family to decide things you know? I never got to be that assertive, so being with a wife who was that assertive was chaotic for me and was problematic.

I felt I was losing my grip on the marriage, and I felt I wasn’t being man. I felt like I wasn’t being a husband, so it was messing with my mind.

I didn’t know how to set boundaries with women around me at the time, so I was all over the place. It was later that I started to learn about boundaries. You actually need to draw the line and say it’s not okay to call me at funky hours of the night. Yeah, she might be your friend, but it’s not okay; you’re married now. Things like that, for example, so the issues went on and on and we’d quarrel and not be able to fix it.”

WOW.

Nollywood is a sobriquet that originally referred to the Nigerian film industry. The origin of the term dates back to the early 2000s, traced to an article in The New York Times. Due to the history of evolving meanings and contexts, there is no clear or agreed-upon definition for the term, which has made it a subject to several controversies.

The origin of the term “Nollywood” remains unclear; Jonathan Haynes traced the earliest usage of the word to a 2002 article by Matt Steinglass in the New York Times, where it was used to describe Nigerian cinema.

Charles Igwe noted that Norimitsu Onishi also used the name in a September 2002 article he wrote for the New York Times. The term continues to be used in the media to refer to the Nigerian film industry, with its definition later assumed to be a portmanteau of the words “Nigeria” and “Hollywood”, the American major film hub.

Film-making in Nigeria is divided largely along regional, and marginally ethnic and religious lines. Thus, there are distinct film industries – each seeking to portray the concern of the particular section and ethnicity it represents. However, there is the English-language film industry which is a melting pot for filmmaking and filmmakers from most of the regional industries.